The Narcissist's Game: How to Beat Him

Therapists said, ‘Stop giving away your power.’ But I wasn’t giving anything away. He was taking it. And I couldn’t stop him. I couldn’t figure out how to beat him at his own game.

“The BTR.ORG Living Free & Message Workshops were the first time I felt like someone understood perfectly what was going on. AND gave me to tools to move forward toward peace and safety. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! You saved my life!!!”

Is He Impossible to Work With?

Is he running you around in circles denying, lying, manipulating, playing games, and causing chaos?

Is He A Narcissist?

If you’ve spend years trying to explain, persuade, get him therapy, or convince him to do the right thing, he doesn’t need a diagnosis of narcissism – BUT YOU NEED EMOTIONAL SAFETY.

If you feel hopeless, like you’ll never be free from his lying and manipulation, if you feel exhausted from attempting to co-parent with him, The BTR.ORG Message Workshop will change everything.

Can a Narcissistic Man Change?

A narcissistic man is unable to interact in the world in a healthy, loving way. He does not WANT to live in truth, follow basic directions, or parent resposibly.

But admitting that would look terrible. So instead he manipulates therapists, clergy, attorneys, gaurdian ad litems, custody evaluators, and judges. Men who decide to discount reality to the extreme harm of their wife (or ex-wife) and children are DANGEROUS domestic abusers. If you are trying to divorce a narcissist, you need STRATEGY to get to emotional safety, safely.

Narcissistic behaviors include:

  • Lying / Secrets
  • Manipulative Games
  • Pornography Use
  • Cheating Emotionally & Physically
  • Gaslighting
  • Obsessing About Perceived Slights
  • Anger disproportionate to the circumstance
  • Property Damage – punching walls, throwing things
  • Physical Intimidation – stalking, yelling in your face

The BTR.ORG Message Workshop builds on the foundational strategies you learned in

The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop

I couldn’t believe how similar the message samples in the The BTR.ORG Message Workshop were to my ex-husband’s messages! It was like reading my own messages. Do they really all play the same games?

Now I know exactly what to expect and how to respond. Since the workshop, I’ve patterned my messages after the examples (the tool I’m Not Comfortable is my favorite:). Even though he’s still sending abusive messages, I feel like a totally new person. Confident and FREE!!! I wish I would have known this four years ago! Thank you!!

“I was stressed every time I saw a text from him.”

For married women, communication is required because they live in the same home.

And even if you’re separated or divorced, if you share children, you’re trapped, experiencing emotional and psychological abuse due to so-called co-parenting. It can feel like you’re haunted by phone calls, texts, and emails.

No matter what your situation, The BTR.ORG Living Free & Message Workshops help victims communicate with abusers in a way that relieves the anxiety and stress.

Real Message Examples

The BTR.ORG Message Workshop is different from any other resource because it showcases their abusive messages with real responses. You’ll be surprised how similar all the abusive messages are and surprised at how easy it is to protect yourself from them.

The tools I learned in The BTR.ORG Message Workshop changed my life.

When I took the workshop, I was still living in the same house with him. I had no idea what to do. After taking the workshop, I began using the tools in little ways that made sense in my situation. It made a HUGE difference. THANK YOU!!

I had to communicate with him because we share kids. I couldn’t figure out how to get out of his chaotic vortex. I wondered if my nightmare would ever end. But once I saw the message examples, it was so clear how they these tools could extract me from the constant stress of communicating with him.

Respond to Abusive Messages with Confidence

The BTR Message Workshop will give you detailed instructions about what phrases to use and the reasoning behind them.

You’ll have exclusive access to the real life sample messages from FIVE different women – women who used the messages you’ll see to shift the situation in their favor. Use these real life samples as templates for your own responses.

Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse

Abuser’s create chaos and fear on purpose to exploit and distress their victims. Learn how to document their abusive communication and protect yourself.

Breath Again

Women who have taken the BTR.ORG Living Free & Message Workshops report that a new sort of peace has settled into their hearts and minds.

They’re able to focus on daily tasks, be present with their children, and feel peace for the first time in years.

At Betrayal Trauma Recovery, We Get It

Every woman on our team has experienced narcissistic abuse first hand.

We’ve all suffered from Betrayal Trauma due to his lies, infidelity, porn use, manipulation, and gaslighting.

We’ve learned the most effective ways to get to emotional safety, and we’ll walk with you.

Better than Therapy

Writing strategic messages is more EFFECTIVE than therapy because therapy focuses on “fixing” your problems.

But the ONLY problem is your abusive husband (or ex). We’ll give you the tools to LIVE FREE!

We Get It - Immediately

Don’t waste time trying to explain what is happening or educate your therapist, clergy, or custody evaluator about narcissistic abuse.

You need help now! These tools will help you immediately.

Professional Support

If you need support implementing the tools in your messages, attend a BTR Group Session or schedule an Individual Session. BTR Coaches are trained on how to write strategic messages.

Safety and Healing

Women who have a safe network of support get through the fog of lies and manipulation more quickly – saving themselves years of pain and confusion.

Forever Access

Once you enroll, you’ll have access forever.  You can watch the videos and read the samples as many times as you need to.

Take it at your own pace.

No Stigmas

Because every woman in our community has experienced narcissistic abuse, we all get it. You’ll be validated and loved – not blamed.

The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop was life changing – I wanted more.

So I enrolled in The BTR.ORG Message Workshop. I’d NEVER thought of writing messages like this – in fact, therapists, clergy, and court professionals were telling me the opposite!!!

I couldn’t believe how easy it was to incorporate the simple phrases in my messages. Writing messages like this brought so much peace into my life.

I finally felt like I was one step ahead of my psychologically abusive husband instead of 12 Steps (pun intended:) behind!

Founder & Executive Director

Anne Blythe, M.Ed.

Anne is the Producer and Host of the The BTR.ORG Podcast and the author of Trauma Mama Husband Drama

After years of attempting to stop her husband’s pornography use and “anger issues”, Anne turned her attention to establishing emotional and psychological safety for herself and her three children. Through study and practical application, Anne finally delivered herself and her children from his narcissistic abuse 8 years after their divorce.

Since then she wrote The BTR.ORG Living Free and Message Workshop to help deliver other women from the seemingly never-ending oppression of being married or divorce from a narcissistic man. Similarly, she wrote the BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop to help victims manufacture peaceful feels throughout their journey to safety. 

Anne shares her journey with others to help women safely and effectively separate themselves from their husband’s (or ex’s) emotional & psychological abuse and sexual coercion and establish peace in their homes and families.

FAQ

Is the BTR.ORG Message Workshop right for me?

If you’ve completed the BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop and you’re interested in learning about strategic message tactics in depth, then YES, this workshop is for YOU!

How long is it the BTR.ORG Message Workshop?

The BTR.ORG Message Workshop includes introductions to the 6 Tools, real life examples from five different Sheros and their abusers.

Once I’ve enrolled, how do I access The BTR.ORG Message Workshop?

Login to the BTR.ORG Client Login > Workshops > Message to access the Workshop.

How long will I have access?

For life!

Can I schedule an Individual Session with Anne?

Anne teaches women about the concepts of abuse and safety on The BTR.ORG Podcast and directs all content here at BTR.

If you’d like guidance on how to implement The BTR.ORG Message Workshop tools in your own messages, attend a BTR.ORG Group Session. We’d love to see you in a session TODAY!